What red flags can I look for that may precede domestic violence?

People who abuse their partners' exhibit behaviors focused on gaining power and control, an indicator of a strong potential for domestic violence.  Here is a list of behaviors that are commonly seen in people who abuse their partners.  The more signs the person has, the greater the potential for abuse:

  • Jealousy
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  • Rigid sex rules
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  • Quick involvement
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  • History of battering
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  • Controlling behaviors
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  • Threats of violence
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  • Quick involement
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  • Breaking or striking objects
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  • Unrealistic expectations
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  • Any force during an argument
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  • Isolation
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  • Blames others for their feelings
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  • Hypersensitivity
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  • Cruelty to animals or children
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  • Cruelty to animals or children
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  • "Playful" use of force in sex
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  • Verbal abuse
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  • Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (others see abuser as a good person; behind closed doors the abuser is abusive, angry, and aggressive)
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  • Probably grew up in a home where violence and abuse was common
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    Getting Help:
    If you are concerned about yourself or someone that is presenting these symptoms or behaviors, be aware that many facilities and counselors are available to help individuals deal with domestic violence issues.  If you are a University of Louisiana at Lafayette student seeking help with these issues, please contact the Counseling and Testing Center at 337-482-6480 for more information.  The center offers unlimited confidential sessions free of charge to all university students and staff.

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